A Simple Formula For Changing Our Behavior • Discoverology

A Simple Formula For Changing Our Behavior

Life

Identify the problem. State what needs to happen. Offer to help. Simple, right? If we want to learn, we need to tolerate the feeling of inauthenticity long enough to integrate the new way of being. Long enough for the new way of being to feel natural.

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